>Of course, this is far from the whole story. “People have expressed the assumption that I chose my career over being a mother, which I find frustrating,” says Katy Close, a fashion designer in her early 40s, who co-owns the London-based label [Vespertine](https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/vespertine-brand). “I spent a lot of my 20s imagining what motherhood might be like. I had baby names and clear ideas on how I’d raise a family. But life had other plans.”. Since Close broke up with her partner of seven years “right before the [pandemic](https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/giving-birth-in-lockdown) locked us all in our homes and me out of any real chance of meeting someone new”, she has made peace with the fact that she will likely not have children now.
Consciously or not, stringing along a woman who wants children for multiple years during the years in which she could realistically have children is one of the worst interpersonal behaviors that is treated as not a big deal. Happened to multiple friends of mine
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>Of course, this is far from the whole story. “People have expressed the assumption that I chose my career over being a mother, which I find frustrating,” says Katy Close, a fashion designer in her early 40s, who co-owns the London-based label [Vespertine](https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/vespertine-brand). “I spent a lot of my 20s imagining what motherhood might be like. I had baby names and clear ideas on how I’d raise a family. But life had other plans.”. Since Close broke up with her partner of seven years “right before the [pandemic](https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/giving-birth-in-lockdown) locked us all in our homes and me out of any real chance of meeting someone new”, she has made peace with the fact that she will likely not have children now.
Consciously or not, stringing along a woman who wants children for multiple years during the years in which she could realistically have children is one of the worst interpersonal behaviors that is treated as not a big deal. Happened to multiple friends of mine